One of the first responses after a breakup is to attempt to fit the relationship or ‘go back to when you were happy together’. Unfortunately, this is usually not possible and is ill-advised as it can extend an unhealthy relationship leading to more hurt later on. It is important to develop and maintain proper coping skills and methods so you can move on from a breakup in a healthy way for both of you, regardless of the surrounding circumstances. Here are some tips from us to you on how to move on.
1 – Take Time Apart
It is important to start with a period of no contact with your ex after a breakup. You need to take some time to wrap your head around your feelings and grieve. If you just maintain a similar level of communication as before the break up it can be too easy to rush into fixing the relationship and making poor decisions about necessary boundaries.
2 – Focus on Yourself
Now is a good time to work on you. Self-care and confidence building are important things to focus on after a breakup. Read a book, take a bath, go to a seminar. Do whatever you need to so that you can rebuild and revitalize your relationship with yourself before you go searching for someone else.
3 – Get Out There
Once you have reached a state where you are calm and ready, get back on the horse. Go out and meet someone, go on a few dates, or even just host a night out with friends. Don’t stop living your life just because one chapter has ended. It is never too late to reach out and grab onto the next great adventure.